Red Flags: How to Spot Frenemies, Underminers, and Toxic People in Your Life

<p>We all need emotional blinders: the etiquette that keeps society smoothly moving depends on it. But when you absolutely <i>must</i> rely on another person, you have to be able to assess them objectively. <i>Red Flags</i> shares simple strategies anyone can use to spot deceptive, or downright dangerous people, who use ingratiation and social convention to draw in and lull victims.<br>Readers will learn how even the most skeptical of us use rose-colored lenses on those around us, in three sections:<br> -Blinded by Desire-from the alluring lenses of attraction and positive attention to the blindness of marital &quot;bliss&quot; and the distorted lens of delusion<br> -Overlooking Red Flags in a Professional Setting-how reassuring proximity and the false security of credibility and similarity can lead to costly mistakes <br> -Be Afraid of What You Can't See-the ultimate cost of wearing emotional blinders around the truly disturbed/criminal, from sexual predation to domestic abuse, stalking and cyberstalking<br>Readers will learn how to:<br> -Avoid selective attention<br> -Observe people over time (bad guys rely on first impressions) <br> -Ask questions: most people's favorite topic is themselves<br> -Cybersleuth to verify information and track down inconsistencies<br>You need this book if you:<br> -Want to know if a potential boyfriend is trustworthy<br> -Are interviewing or hiring new employees<br> -Are selecting anyone to take care of your children<br> -Are lending money or property<br> -Have partners in business</p>