Your Daughter's Bedroom: Insights for Raising Confident Women by Joyce T. McFadden

Your Daughter's Bedroom: Insights for Raising Confident Women

Joyce T. McFadden
225 pages
Palgrave Macmillan
Apr 2011
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<p>Your Daughter's Healthy Identity Starts With You</p><p>After psychoanalyst Joyce McFadden treated countless women who felt alone and isolated in experiences that they were unaware many other women were dealing with too, she began to ask what she could do to help them reach out to each other. The result was the launch of her <i>Women's Realities Study</i> in which she interviewed hundreds of women from ages 18-105, about the most private issues as she sought to understand what events in a woman's life impact her future happiness and self-confidence. What McFadden found was truly revealing -- the theme that most interested them as they explored their identities was how their relationship with their mothers influenced their understanding of themselves as sexual beings throughout their lives -- from the time they were little girls straight through adulthood. </p><p>Drawing on over a thousand responses, <i>Your Daughter's Bedroom</i> offers a new and unprecedented look at the mother-daughter bond. McFadden argues that the type of womanhood mothers model for their daughters determines the young girls' comfort with their own bodies which, in turn, leads to confidence and satisfaction later in life. From the most mundane and everyday gestures -- a reluctance to call body parts by their real name; an offhanded suggestion to lose weight -- to how mothers introduce life altering events such as the start of puberty and sexual exploration, all of these have an impact on a girl's psyche. She found that in an attempt to protect and shield daughters, mothers withhold important information and leave girls to wrestle with their own bourgeoning sexuality and other challenges of growing up.</p><p>Offering a fresh perspective on the fraught mother-daughter relationship, McFadden shows how mothers can create the right environment for their daughters to grow into self-assured women.<i> Your Daughter's Bedroom</i> is an essential resource for women who want to establish a more open and positive relationship with their daughters.</p>
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I cannot say enough about the importance of this book. I am finished reading it, but don't feel like I am finished. I want to read it again- and what I have read informs me every day. This is the only book that makes the connection between the overall confidence of girls and their sexuality. It is the only parenting book I have read which talks openly about sexuality beginning at birth. We live in such a puritanical society. The fact that the anatomically correct words for girls are taboo- and treated like curse words is a tragedy. Joyce McFadden helps us as moms to feel more confident to face this ugly reality and work to change it with our own daughters. I am amazed by how insidious sexism is and how we all feed right into it- without even knowing it. Joyce McFadden offers great tips on how to comfortably change our own ways in order to support our kids- without shaming us. She makes it seem easy. The book is also really important in pointing out how our relationships with our own mothers informs how we parent. Again, without shaming or judging- she simply brings about an awareness so that we can move forward in a healthy way. She also brings up the very taboo topic of masturbation and normalizes it for women. It is a treasure to read the realities of womens stories on this topic. I want to add that even though this is written about mothers and daughters, I have used the author's wisdom in mothering my son and my husband is currently reading it. Joyce writes so clearly and beautifully- as if she is having a supportive conversation with each of us. She is humble and backs up her findings with stories from her clients and women in her study. It is fascinating and I couldn't put it down. Read more

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Pages 225
Publisher Palgrave Macmillan
Published 2011
Readers 3